# Need based or #Eternal #Relationship? #What do you #want??
Often we say any relation is based on mutual needs and thus must fulfil them. Many of my friends say that love can not be one way. Even as a mother you expect your child to give back in some form. Children approach you because you meet their needs and end of the day you need them. Therefore it is two way as in give and take. Pretty much the economics principle of '"there is no such thing as free lunch and thus the mutual give and take is the predominant aspect in relations. NEED vs WANT in relations However this attribute of need is where we become mutually interdependent. This breeds expectations and thus ego, possession, jealousy and anger issues.The moment our need/expectation is not met we develop negativity within. Hence eventually, the relationships have those highs and lows and often collapse. This is why, many gurus say that relationships are the most variable aspect of human life and need constant monitoring and nurturing. The problem is in the understandin...