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  Pain is inevitable, suffering is your choice.  I say that, often in a bid to avoid pain we suffer. How? In an abusive relationship we continue to pull on & suffer, just for the fear of pain that the society would inflict on us, in the name of norms and culture. Likewise, in a broken relationship, many continue to suffer but not leave, for the fear of pain, that they would experience, in the absence of this partner, whom they love. Cutting the chord, feels painful and thus the suffering continues. Does this apply even at work? Yes, we often fear the transitional pain of changing jobs or the career path. Hence, we get stuck into the same profession or workplace and suffer! However, in the event of extenuating barriers to such a change, the ideal position would be a humble reminder, for total acceptance of the situation and thus avoid suffering, even amidst pain.  In terms of spirituality, the attachment continues to be a source of suffering. Only if we are ready, to b...

  Could we apply the corporate norms to the social bond of marriage/any relationship? Effective Team building and team playing are equivalent to successful marriage: Team building : Recruitment stage: What team member would you select? Would you recruit someone who has the same competencies as you and lacks the same skill that you do not have? Nah!.You would select a team member whose skill set will make your team complete! In other words the selection of a team member in a team of two, is that based on complementarity rather than substitutability The final point of selection is based on  like-mindedness. (Compatibility) In other words there may be many people with the required skill sets but possibly do not have the same wavelength like you.This is where the point of rejection or selection is reiterated, that it is just a matter of being the best fit. It has nothing to do with the individual’s competencies but being a good fit in the given jigsaw puzzle. Team Playing: Proje...

Often we say any relation is based on mutual needs and thus must fulfil them. Many of my friends say that love can not be one way. Even as a mother you expect your child to give back in some form. Children approach you because you meet their needs and end of the day you need them. Therefore it is two way as in give and take. Pretty much the economics principle of '"there is no such thing as free lunch and thus the mutual give and take is the predominant aspect in relations. NEED vs WANT in relations However this attribute of need is where we become mutually interdependent. This breeds expectations and thus ego, possession, jealousy and anger issues.The moment our need/expectation is not met we develop negativity within. Hence eventually, the relationships have those highs and lows and often collapse. This is why, many gurus say that relationships are the most variable aspect of human life and need constant monitoring and nurturing. The problem is in the understandin...

मित्रता, जी हाँ मित्रता का रिश्ता सबसे श्रेष्ठ है ! जानते हैं क्यों? क्योंकि ये रिश्ता कोई भी स्वेच्छा से चुनता है! आप ने अगर किसी को भी अपना मित्र बनाया, तो आप उसे पसंद करते हैं! आप का, उस से, कहीं मन मिल गया है। असल में मित्रता का रिश्ता ही है, रिश्ता रूह का! प्रेम स्वेछा से नहीं होता, वो तो हो जाता है और खून के रिश्तों में भी आपका कोई जोर नहीं! काम पर कौन आपका बॉस होगा कौन सबोर्डिनेट, ये भी आपकी मर्जी के परे है ! आपकी मन मर्जी चलती है कहीं, तो वो है दोस्ती में! शायद इसीलिए सबसे प्रगाढ़ रिश्ता भी यही होता है! जहाँ आप एक दूसरे को स्वीकारते हैं, अपने अपने असली स्वरुप में..... क्या ऐसा प्रेम में नहीं होता? शायद नहीं क्योंकि कहीं न कहीं, उस में मोह और अधिकार की भावना आ जाती है! लोग कहते हैं की, प्रेम, एकनिष्ठा चाहता है, जबकि मित्रता में न तो एकनिष्ट भाव ही अपेक्षित होता है, न ढकोसला, क्योंकि मित्रता तो होती ही है, एक दूसरे के, स्वीकार भाव में! दुःख में आप अपने मित्र को पुकारते हैं, प्रेमी या प्रेयसी को नहीं। ... स्वार्थी होकर... क्योंकि, प्रेमी- प्रेयसी, एक दूसरे को दु...

क्या आप चाहते हैं की आपका बच्चा अच्छा करे?? मगर ये भी तो हो सकता है की, वो अच्छा ही नहीं,...  बहुत अच्छा कर रहा हो?? क्योंकि वो खुश रहता है ! हर आत्मा अलग है, मगर फिर भी अंततः हर किसी के जीवन का एक ही ध्येय होता है "ख़ुशी "! चाहे वो आर्थिक सफलता से जुड़कर हो या सामाजिक ! अंततः सुकून। ..तो फिर आपका बच्चा तो, पहले ही अच्छा कर रहा है ! अक्सर आपके बच्चे को तनाव में रहने की आदत नहीं होती और आप उसे तनाव ग्रस्त रहने की आदत खुद डाल देते हैं! याद दिला दिला कर.... .अरे तेरी परीक्षा है, तुझे बहुत बड़ा आदमी बनना है, वगैरह वगैरह। ..वो इन सब में कब 'खुद' से दूर हो जाता है... कब मशीन बन जाता है.... पता ही नहीं चलता! अंधी रेस में दौड़ता चला जाता है १०००  करोड़ और फिर भी तृष्णा वहीँ के वही ! आप उसके लिए समाज के मापदंडो से (जो मुख्यतः आर्थिक होते हैं ) उसकी सफलता का आंकलन करना शुरू कर देते हैं....  जबकि महवपूर्ण ये है की वो, अपनी सफलता के मापदंड, खुद तय करे ! वो, वो बने जो, वो बन सकता है, स्वतः उन्मुक्त भाव से ! सबसे बुरा ये की, आप ऐसे में केवल नकारात्मक ऊर्जा का सृजन करते हैं। ये कह...

On the journey of life, when people's paths do not match the separation is inevitable. In any case, given the life cycle, separation is inevitable.The root cause of our pain is 'us'...because we tend to cling on, till torn apart. Important it is, to accept any rejection , as the point of separation . Else relapses, are inevitable. Cut the chord and you will be liberated to walk on your path. If destined to meet the same people..your paths will cross over again...and possibly, your end journey may resume together, with many others on board. Do you want to be  # Liberated ? or  # Captivated ? Choose carefully and take ownership of your decisions. Make a choice and be prepared to bear the consequence. Do not deceive yourself in the name of love. Bring clarity of thoughts. Is it your ego which is not letting it go or is it really love??  Be Mindful friends.Life is too short... so embrace the change gracefully and open up to welcome change in...

Let your love be liberated and it will be captivated eternally. Yes, because Love gives freedom and Love is surrender. Surrender of EGO and Freedom of one's being, as oneself. Total ACCEPTANCE! However, in most relationships, often it happens the other way. People begin to take charge of each other, in love.The possessiveness becomes a regular feature. Both partners are desperate to own each other and this is where the ego issues begin to hype. However, when there is true love it brings faith, it brings trust and thus readily gives freedom. Love is a life long connection.That assurance within, will strengthen the bond and thus keep two souls, ever bonded, together. Yes indeed, it is not that easy. Everyone in love wants to get, what they give.We start feeling possessive about the person we love, for our own insecurities within. The desire of belonging, gets stronger within. This desire led insecurity and possessiveness, leads to expectation. If I love you, deep ...