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Overcoming the Hold of a Narcissist: A Journey Towards Self-Liberation

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Finding oneself entangled in the web of a narcissistic relationship can be both bewildering and deeply painful. The intense cycle of attraction and repulsion leaves many feeling lost, constantly searching for a way out. But what if the key to breaking free lies within a concept as simple, yet profound, as redirecting the love you've been giving away? Let’s explore how prioritising self-care and self-understanding can be your first step towards emotional liberation. Understanding the Narcissistic Trap: At first, a narcissist might seem like the embodiment of everything you’ve ever wanted. Their charm, attention, and seemingly intense connection can quickly draw you in. However, the shift from adoration to indifference can be jarring, leaving you clinging to the remnants of what once was, in hopes of its return.  This cycle is dizzying—every instance of neglect or mistreatment is internally rebutted with reminders of the good times, convincing you that this turmoil is just a phase. ...

"Embracing the Dance of Ying and Yang: Navigating the Complex Waltz of Modern Relationships"

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  "Embracing the Dance of Ying and Yang: Navigating the Complex Waltz of Modern Relationships" In the realm of love, the typical chemistry between two individuals often mirrors the Ying and Yang concept. At their core, both partners embody love and kindness. This mutual understanding is enriched by a shared experience of sexual awakening, underpinning their search for profound love. The Dynamics of Conflict and Desire Despite this foundation, conflicts arise, primarily due to differing approaches in internalizing love. Women often internalize love more deeply, leading them to become more actively involved in the pursuit of their partner. Conversely, men tend to externalize their feelings, prioritizing physical connections over verbal communication. Ego, Space, and Emotional Needs This dynamic leads to interesting scenarios: while men generally appreciate being pursued, as it flatters their ego, they also crave personal space. Women, in contrast, yearn for closeness ...

The Magic of #Slow #Thinking and #INCLUSION!

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‘ Slow thinking ’ in one word? It is nothing but ‘ Mindfulness ’. Pause and take a breather, then look at the query/ problem or behavior/ attitude of self or someone else, again. Challenge your assumptions, could there be some other perspective, beyond the visible? Most of the time that deep breather will calm you and enhance your ability to take a more informed action/decision. In other words, you would be responding, not reacting! Last week, at my workplace, I had to conduct some workshops. Going through the schedule I noted a workshop that had a clear conflict with my regular work. I quickly reached out the administration. It was late at night in Sydney but early morning in the UK. I messaged the timetable coordinator for this workshop. The lady at the other end mentioned, there was none scheduled for me then. I was only a buddy for that session. I had started my day too early but I did not want to give up even at midnight 12! I sent her a snap shot of the schedule and aske...

Body and Soul!

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The nexus between Body and Soul! 6/12/20              "The Intriguing Connection Between Body and Soul: A Journey of Care and Balance" Imagine your body as a house or a garment that your soul resides in or wears. This analogy prompts a thought-provoking question: Is the physical aspect, particularly the body, inconsequential in the grand scheme of things?   To delve deeper into this, let's ponder a hypothetical scenario. What if you had only one outfit to wear for the next three months? Naturally, you'd take utmost care of it, ensuring it remains clean and intact.      Now, applying this mindset to our bodies: if our body is the garment for our soul in this lifetime, doesn't it become our prime responsibility to maintain it well? This includes regular exercise, a nutritious diet, good hygiene practices, and striking a healthy work-life balance.   Neglecting our body could lead to premature wear and tear. Considering that the s...

Life is too short!

  Perspective can make a difference and thus the approach, to the very same philosophies of life. A better understanding of this is vital for conflict management. Recently my colleague said, "Life is too short!" Oh well, yes I was always in agreement with this. To me life is too short, so let me work harder, day and night and accomplish what I am here for ! To him Life is too short so live it to the fullest....Tomorrow never comes! Two people on the same take but different pathways and completely opposite direction! Isn't it amazing? Even when we are on the same page we could be thinking completely opposite. Bottom line our perspective is defined by our eco system and core. This explains how we all undergo same problem yet find different solutions. No two individuals are alike, so how can we perceive, what others think or go through? However, an open dialogue enables better understanding of each other's stance, a greater empathy and compassion. Not failing to mention...

Are You #OKAY?

          Are you Okay with YOU?  If the answer is, ‘yes’ …. great! It is time to  look around and see how you can adorn, yourself further, by nurturing qualities that add value to Project “YOU”!  However if the answer is, ‘NO’ it is time to review your relationship with YOURSELF. Your first responsibility is, towards your own self. So respect and love yourself before you could love others. Accept yourself, as you are and then consider value additions, that enhance your inner joy and peace, in harmony with your true core.  The core that is essentially pure and loving. Only one, who has these attributes, can give to others and feel okay with oneself. More so, you can not give, other than, what you have...and remember, just like you, people are willing to accept, useful gifts only . In other words, everyone, at the root level, has the same desire of being loved and respected. Make the world a better place, take a #look at #yourself and #make ...

Many men, never fail because they never try!

  23/10/20 If you intend to start up a new venture, the first project one should invest in is, “Project-Me’. This is to prepare yourself 360 degrees, for emotional to spiritual strength.  Essentially do a SWOT analysis for Self . Be true to yourself. Many of the weaknesses that you may have, might be perceived ones and many for real but trifle. These could be addressed proactively/simultaneously, while on your dream project/ startup.  More so, if you reckon they are a part of your core, then find co founders, who have these strengths but may lack a couple of your strengths. This will ensure long lasting partnership and better team dynamics.  If you reckon, you do not need a business partner then, may be, hire such resources. However this may mean a bit of higher costs. Whatsoever, you can not afford to be penny wise and pound foolish, considering the opportunity costs of your start up! Opportunity Cost is not always about money, after all. While 100% preparation may...