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Often we say any relation is based on mutual needs and thus must fulfil them. Many of my friends say that love can not be one way. Even as a mother you expect your child to give back in some form. Children approach you because you meet their needs and end of the day you need them. Therefore it is two way as in give and take. Pretty much the economics principle of '"there is no such thing as free lunch and thus the mutual give and take is the predominant aspect in relations. NEED vs WANT in relations However this attribute of need is where we become mutually interdependent. This breeds expectations and thus ego, possession, jealousy and anger issues.The moment our need/expectation is not met we develop negativity within. Hence eventually, the relationships have those highs and lows and often collapse. This is why, many gurus say that relationships are the most variable aspect of human life and need constant monitoring and nurturing. The problem is in the understandin...

मित्रता, जी हाँ मित्रता का रिश्ता सबसे श्रेष्ठ है ! जानते हैं क्यों? क्योंकि ये रिश्ता कोई भी स्वेच्छा से चुनता है! आप ने अगर किसी को भी अपना मित्र बनाया, तो आप उसे पसंद करते हैं! आप का, उस से, कहीं मन मिल गया है। असल में मित्रता का रिश्ता ही है, रिश्ता रूह का! प्रेम स्वेछा से नहीं होता, वो तो हो जाता है और खून के रिश्तों में भी आपका कोई जोर नहीं! काम पर कौन आपका बॉस होगा कौन सबोर्डिनेट, ये भी आपकी मर्जी के परे है ! आपकी मन मर्जी चलती है कहीं, तो वो है दोस्ती में! शायद इसीलिए सबसे प्रगाढ़ रिश्ता भी यही होता है! जहाँ आप एक दूसरे को स्वीकारते हैं, अपने अपने असली स्वरुप में..... क्या ऐसा प्रेम में नहीं होता? शायद नहीं क्योंकि कहीं न कहीं, उस में मोह और अधिकार की भावना आ जाती है! लोग कहते हैं की, प्रेम, एकनिष्ठा चाहता है, जबकि मित्रता में न तो एकनिष्ट भाव ही अपेक्षित होता है, न ढकोसला, क्योंकि मित्रता तो होती ही है, एक दूसरे के, स्वीकार भाव में! दुःख में आप अपने मित्र को पुकारते हैं, प्रेमी या प्रेयसी को नहीं। ... स्वार्थी होकर... क्योंकि, प्रेमी- प्रेयसी, एक दूसरे को दु...

क्या आप चाहते हैं की आपका बच्चा अच्छा करे?? मगर ये भी तो हो सकता है की, वो अच्छा ही नहीं,...  बहुत अच्छा कर रहा हो?? क्योंकि वो खुश रहता है ! हर आत्मा अलग है, मगर फिर भी अंततः हर किसी के जीवन का एक ही ध्येय होता है "ख़ुशी "! चाहे वो आर्थिक सफलता से जुड़कर हो या सामाजिक ! अंततः सुकून। ..तो फिर आपका बच्चा तो, पहले ही अच्छा कर रहा है ! अक्सर आपके बच्चे को तनाव में रहने की आदत नहीं होती और आप उसे तनाव ग्रस्त रहने की आदत खुद डाल देते हैं! याद दिला दिला कर.... .अरे तेरी परीक्षा है, तुझे बहुत बड़ा आदमी बनना है, वगैरह वगैरह। ..वो इन सब में कब 'खुद' से दूर हो जाता है... कब मशीन बन जाता है.... पता ही नहीं चलता! अंधी रेस में दौड़ता चला जाता है १०००  करोड़ और फिर भी तृष्णा वहीँ के वही ! आप उसके लिए समाज के मापदंडो से (जो मुख्यतः आर्थिक होते हैं ) उसकी सफलता का आंकलन करना शुरू कर देते हैं....  जबकि महवपूर्ण ये है की वो, अपनी सफलता के मापदंड, खुद तय करे ! वो, वो बने जो, वो बन सकता है, स्वतः उन्मुक्त भाव से ! सबसे बुरा ये की, आप ऐसे में केवल नकारात्मक ऊर्जा का सृजन करते हैं। ये कह...

On the journey of life, when people's paths do not match the separation is inevitable. In any case, given the life cycle, separation is inevitable.The root cause of our pain is 'us'...because we tend to cling on, till torn apart. Important it is, to accept any rejection , as the point of separation . Else relapses, are inevitable. Cut the chord and you will be liberated to walk on your path. If destined to meet the same people..your paths will cross over again...and possibly, your end journey may resume together, with many others on board. Do you want to be  # Liberated ? or  # Captivated ? Choose carefully and take ownership of your decisions. Make a choice and be prepared to bear the consequence. Do not deceive yourself in the name of love. Bring clarity of thoughts. Is it your ego which is not letting it go or is it really love??  Be Mindful friends.Life is too short... so embrace the change gracefully and open up to welcome change in...

Let your love be liberated and it will be captivated eternally. Yes, because Love gives freedom and Love is surrender. Surrender of EGO and Freedom of one's being, as oneself. Total ACCEPTANCE! However, in most relationships, often it happens the other way. People begin to take charge of each other, in love.The possessiveness becomes a regular feature. Both partners are desperate to own each other and this is where the ego issues begin to hype. However, when there is true love it brings faith, it brings trust and thus readily gives freedom. Love is a life long connection.That assurance within, will strengthen the bond and thus keep two souls, ever bonded, together. Yes indeed, it is not that easy. Everyone in love wants to get, what they give.We start feeling possessive about the person we love, for our own insecurities within. The desire of belonging, gets stronger within. This desire led insecurity and possessiveness, leads to expectation. If I love you, deep ...

H2+O=H2O C+O2 =CO2 Or H2SO4…   for that matter! Oxygen molecule when it forms a bond with Hydrogen the result is H2O The same oxygen molecule bonding with carbon gives CO2. In other words, the same molecules have a different bonding with different molecules and thus different outcomes!   In some cases, more oxygen molecules are required, and then in others, more hydrogen.   Nonetheless, are these results, not complete in themselves? Crux?? The end result is a matter of bonding …as in Chemistry.   Doesn’t it hold likewise, for the  chemistry of our relationships too? Keeping aside the gender bias, we are bound to gel or bond differently with different people. Thus each one finds a unique positioning, in our lives. So why do we feel insecure, if our partner bonds with others? As long as our position is intact in their lives, and they do not mix up, there should be no reason to feel insecure or upset. Altho...

      Can you control others or situations beyond you?      What you can control is your actions and your own self. Take charge of your body and mind.  If you want to stay happy, you choose the happiness and do not let your mind or body rob you off it. Do not entertain any pain…. for effective management use mind to control body and body to control mind. How? Mind is bothering you..go for a run, for body be mindful and follow a healthy regime.   You and only you are in charge of your happiness and stress. Stop looking outwards…. look inwards… Get the message loud and clear! All you can change or fix is-‘Yourself’.     There are two options for you:  A) Change to, what people want of you OR  B) Find people who are looking for your skill set/your type.   It all depends on your desperation of success,for happiness.Your decision/choice will also depen...